When we decide to pick up our life and head out into the travel nursing world, we don’t just put other aspects of our life on hold. While we may not be actively looking to meet someone when we are working or meeting that extra special someone while only on a 13-week contract, it may just happen to be out of your control. Life has a funny way of throwing things in our path that we need to learn from, we get to cherish, or we get to hold on to. It’s up to us to figure out which one is which.
In saying that, it doesn’t make it any easier to know what to do in these situations. Whether it is you showing interest, or someone showing interest in you, we still need to know how to act or how to react to it happening. Here are some quick tips to help you identify what direction you should go.
1. Be Cool
Our imaginations have a tendency of running wild when we meet someone we connect with. You are not alone if your mind starts racing to what it would be like to hang out with each other but maybe overcompensate a little if you start thinking well into the future. The problem with this is it can be both premature and make you act in ways that just aren’t cool.
Scaring off someone that you are interested in is something that can happen much more easily right at the beginning, especially when we throw some nerves in there. Though your contract is short, and you may be on a bit of a time frame, try to be cool and start off by casually talking with them. Remember, if it flows it flows, if it doesn’t then step back and let it happen naturally.
2. Friends First
Sometimes when we know there is something a little more special about a person and a little more special about the connection, we tend to try and skip past the friends’ stage. Which should be considered one of the most important stages. It’s really simple, just be friends. Hang out at work, hang out after work (even if it’s just to grab a coffee) or go for a walk in a park to get away from that work life. Do the friendly things first and see how the vibes are. If you guys have things in common, good conversations and feel good at the end, then it’s more of a signal that maybe this is something that could be long term.
Just remember having a conversation goes both ways. Listen to answers and ask questions. Don’t just talk about yourself the whole time.
3. Be Cool But Be Bold
Getting to know someone is a little bit of an art form, but if it comes naturally, it won’t feel like you need to do much to get there. Everyone is different, and some are more ready to open themselves up and some aren’t huge sharers. That’s why you need to either be able to pick up on the signals that are being thrown at you or simply ask the question. The boldness doesn’t only need to be in the way you ask the question but also in what question you ask. This can be done in the questions that you ask about them as a whole, or in finding out what could be the next potential step for the both of you.
Dating is always a little complicated so let’s see if we can break that down a little further. It’s like not straight up asking if you want to be each other’s significant other but finding out how they feel about meeting new people in your position. If they have ever had any long-distance relationships before. Simple but bold questions like this can help you find out where they are at.
4. Be Realistic
At the end of the day, you are in a unique position and have to be realistic about what it is that can come out of it and what it is that you want. Are you really in a position to be in a relationship? Whether that’s long-distance, or whether you are ready to change your plans for a relationship? Like we said before, sometimes our imagination can get away from us and we crave something we may not necessarily be in a position to take on at the moment. It’s 13 weeks in one place, and potentially 13 weeks in another place. Really take the time to think about what YOU need, rather than thinking about whether you or they will work out.
5. Going On The Date
When it comes to the date, keep it simple. As this will be fresh due to your 13-weeks situation, you do not want to be doing anything over the top that may freak them out. You can keep it simple with a dinner and movie, lunch picnic where you both go shopping and get your picnic food together, head out to an arcade and do a round of bowling or have them show you something in the town you wouldn’t know because you are new there. The more casual, the better. It puts less stress on you feeling like you need to perform and less stress on them thinking that you may be pushing them harder than they would like it. Keeping it cool and breezy.
Dating is tough in general, throw in a 13-week contract and it could be quite daunting. Though life doesn’t just stop when we move into our next phase and developing feelings for someone new is completely normal. Really great if anything. We just need to make sure it is what we want and something we can bring into our lives at that moment. Sometimes we meet people just as a lesson, but if we are lucky, we get to hold onto them a little longer than that. Happy dating!